Weekday Beverage Share: Spring Break 2018

The idea of a weekly/weekend coffee share/beverage share post was invented by the blogger Parttimemonster. I have recently lost her blogging url and cannot find it. If you know where she is now, I’d love to give her credit/link to her blog!

I would have Lemonade by the pitcher full on my back slab-o-concrete with chocolate croissants waiting for you for this week’s catch up; it’s been awhile and I’ve got the time to actually put something out.

It’s spring break and for the first time in years I do not have the pleasure of having a guest this week. Usually my little sister comes by with her big ideas on how to get my house in hand. Its become pretty clear that the problem is we have too much stuff for our little apartment townhouse. Since I’ve donated copious bags of stuff every year for the last 4 years I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s time… for real estate. For us to own a house of our own, with property.

We are currently tossing $615 to the wind every month. Our place isn’t great, it’s not the right size, and the last windy day blew off some siding and our attic is exposed a bit to the elements…. and it’s been weeks. No fix.

So that and a laundry list of other things and the rent hike makes me think, it’s time for the lack of repairs to me my and my husband’s fault. There is just no space and no where in town to rent that is better. There is a lot of government housing here, and it’s needed (don’t get me wrong). We don’t qualify and there are people leaving town more so than renting out spaces. So after looking to rent a home, you know taking a step up from an apartment, we realized we would rather start paying on a home.

We’re heading to the big times folks.

Now I’ve been talking to folks in town, sussing out realtors, looking for rentals, looking at Trulia and Realtor dot com for a couple of months. We’ve been talking about moving seriously for less than a year. We’ve been talking about leaving this area for 5 years.

Why buy a house then?

Well, we’ve been trying to leave this place. Last year I even got two jobs 2 hours away, one for Ry and me. We just couldn’t find a place to live. It seemed like, every time we tried to leave we were being blocked from doing so in some way. I know some people don’t believe in fate or portents and the like, but I do. Now it seems like my husband does as well.

Well he always has, I just think he’s believing more in fate now.

So I sucked it up and called a realtor (I hate calling strangers) and he listened to, briefly, what we were looking for. Out of the five choices the realtor gave us, we picked four to tour. Out of the four we are looking at, three we are interested in.

Do you want to see?

One is crazy. It’s huge. This house is a little more than 3,000 square feet. Why? Well it wasn’t a house at first…

You see, I’m looking at the size of the rooms, I’m looking at the fans on the front porch, the drive through shed in the back and the sturdy tile in the living area and I realize this isn’t a house. Well it is now but it was something, like a meeting house, a small town meeting center, a something. Maybe even a church:

This is all one room. One. Room. (Do you see the air pipe back there?!)

I could put a whole Boy Scout troop in here for a sleepover. My church could host a lock-in. How would one decorate such a mammoth place?!

That’s not all, look at the kitchen:

Look at the sink:

I mean holy Lord, that’s an industrial sink (look at the granite countertops!!).

So I look at the bedrooms which look nice and I am supremely glad that the bathrooms do NOT have stalls:

I really cannot take it. What was this place?! Was it a compound?! Will the South rise again?! (I sincerely hope not)

Nah, it turns out it was a Shriner’s Club. The local club moved into a building on Main Street. The big old barn/shed is where they kept those little cars and did drive through plate sales! I suppose the bedrooms were offices and the like! One other family has lived there since they moved the club.

So it’s highly unlikely to be inhabited by le dead people (that was on my list. Seriously. I asked for homes where no one has died violent deaths: murders, suicides, etc.) . There is a huge wooded area outback as well that can be explored and CDubs does want a tree house… but how much would it cost to heat this place? To cool? These are questions for such large rooms and high ceilings!

Maybe I just also want to see the place, cause wow. Imagine!

The other two are less strange, to be sure, and have always been houses.

This one has been updated quite a bit and I do like the deck:

There is also a covered porch (I believe they mean screened in), and the kitchen is large but I hate the countertops:

Chickens are always an interesting styling choice.

And then there is this strangeness:

Why a rail? Is there a staircase there? Why?

I’m not too keen on this one…

And the last place is better than the previous (based on photos and my preferences of course):

The bathrooms really stood out to me:

Hello-o-o tile!

And the bedrooms look pretty good:

Where we live there are not many choices of schools, so it wouldn’t matter where we lived, CDubs would still go to the same schools. I mean these places are all over in and out side of town. He would still go to the same elementary even if we stayed where we live now.

All properties have varying acreage and space in between neighbors. All are edge of town towards the country side so the crime is less prevalent. Our payments on all 3 of the places would be about the same give or take $15.

So. Friday we are going to go tour all four places (one of the places I really didn’t like but Ry does want to see it, hidden gems and all that.). A friend is tagging along for the Shriner’s club visit, because she just cannot believe the size of this place! I also appreciate her coming to the most… strange property. She has owned a large home for 15+ years, renovated the place (built in the 1800’s, horsehair plaster walls, saw a flipping ghost yesterday from the chest up, not even kidding.), and knows much about owning a home. She knows questions to ask that I just wouldn’t. Could be a good template/script for the other 3 viewings. (What to say and ask about etc.) I will be researching today and tomorrow questions to ask the realtor, but if you have any suggestions, sage advice, government programs I should know about…. please share them with me!

I’m pretty darn sure there is going to HAVE to be a government loan involved. However, my parents did it, my friends did it, old neighbors, church members… it’s not like it’s a risky thing, well more so than a bank loan. I also understand overall a 30 year fixed rate mortgage would be the best for us. I also know it’s in the realtor’s best interest for us to buy a home so they will help us out with their extensive knowledge as much a possible. I also know no matter how many recent upgrades, new wiring, whatever it MUST be inspected first by a licensed home inspector.

So I’m not completely ignorant it’s just this is big folks. Big.

Let me tell you CDubs is excited. He wants a bigger room, more places to play, a tree house, a puppy, I mean his little wishes are exploding out his body! He’s like hmmmm what can I do with more room…

I personally just want to have a proper guest room. I mean yes, one for me and Ry, one for CDubs, but then another for guests. We live so far away from folks that it would be so nice to have the ability to say, “no, instead of us putting you up at a hotel (or you driving home), you can stay with us.” Maybe we won’t have to drive as much to visit family with guest rooms, because we will have one for them!

In other news, I would share this:

It seems that one should always listen to one’s doctors but keep in mind that doctors do employ technicians trained to read certain films and labs for a reason.

So my tumor has compacted smaller than it was BEFORE I had CDubs. Can’t have an MRI when your pregnant or breastfeeding after all. (Okay maybe you can when breastfeeding, not sure about that.) He was born a year after the last MRI (that they are comparing this recent one to). This could mean that it is safe to have more children. If that’s something we want to do. I am still not so sure myself. I don’t feel like it’s time to have another, if that makes sense. We may not decide on a house any time soon. It’s not just that large change that’s putting me off. It just feels like a no right now, and I’m going to respect that.

It’s not like I don’t have, thanks to modern medicine, 10 years at least maybe 15, to have another baby. Then there is adoption etc.

We will just have to see, one thing at a time. A smaller tumor is good news though.

I think on that note, we’d probably go into the kitchen and do some dishes and talk about you! Do you have anything to share? A link to a personal update or good news, bad news, inspiring news you want to share? Please comment below and enjoy your week!


  1. dragonflylady77

    That house looks huge! One of my friends lives in an old church (I actually know someone who got married there!) and they had 4 kids and 2 bedrooms… recently they added more bedrooms, the kitchen and bathroom are still tiny though lol

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    1. dragonflylady77

      Our rent is $200 a week and we’re lucky because rents went up after we found it. Like around $350 a week easy… There’s no way we could afford that (or even $250). When we got that money from my dad some of the ppl we told were all “buy a house!” but that did not seem like a good idea to us. Instead we got newer cars (swapped my 1993 Toyota for a looks-brand-new 2004 Toyota lol) and awesome Christmas presents. The money is all gone now and I wish the rental agent would get back to me for once. Had to get my friend to fix the pantry doors because the rental agent seems to have forgotten about us.

      If you’re in a position to buy a house, and you find one you like and can afford, go for it!!!

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      1. afternoonofsundries

        I totally understand about the car, ours we kept taking out a loan to repair, then refinancing, then we needed help… luckily, Ry’s mother was ready for a new car and gave us her old one. It’s very fancy in comparison to our old Toyota. Made us feel all grownup when we started driving it (it’s a Camry… some year before 2010.). Sometimes what we feel we need to do differs from what others think, and that’s okay.

        I also know about Rental issues…. I heard the vinyl siding flapping in the wind last night… reported it forever ago… They are happy to take your money but the rest…

        I’m not sure we are in the position to, but I suppose we will find out this week (It’s play week and All County Band Clinic so we are both completely busy at night and I have testing all week… so busy all day too!). I hope we can but… if we can’t, I’ll have to deal… the bank gave us suggestions on how to look better for a 100% downpayment and 6% closing costs loan but that’s going to take a couple years.

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